Self-confidence
helps us believe that we can handle whatever task or challenge comes our way.
We could all use a little more of that. However, it’s easy to get bogged down
with reading and acquiring information. Many people are too busy planning, and lack
the confidence, to take action. Planning is important, but if you fail to implement
your plan, you won’t see results.
Try
these activities and boost your confidence today:
1. Try getting specific. Are you confident in your ability
to brush your teeth, tie your shoes, and drive a car? Probably so! You likely
have more self-confidence than you realize.
·
List
some situations where you’d like to feel more self-confident. Some examples
might include dating situations, public speaking, meeting new people, being
more assertive at work, or dealing with conflict.
2. Create a self-confidence
blueprint. Take
a few minutes and jot down about a half-page of notes regarding the specific
situation where you desire greater self-confidence. How would you act? How
would you look to others? How would you feel? Think about your body language,
facial expressions, tone of voice, and breathing.
·
Ensure
that you define and understand what self-confidence looks like to you. It’s difficult to accomplish “it”
if you’re unsure what “it” is.
3. Everything is easier in
hindsight.
Imagine that you’ve already been through the situation in question. Visualize
yourself being incredibly self-confident. Put in as much detail as possible. See
yourself acting in accordance with the criteria you listed in the previous
step.
·
Do
this visualization at least once a day until it’s 100% believable to you. Then
you can try out your newfound self-confidence during the situation in question.
Avoid expecting perfection and focus on personal growth.
4. Get physical. Attempt to sit, walk, talk, and act
like a confident person. Intentionally try to take on the physical characteristics
of someone that’s brimming with self-confidence. Smile and stand up straight.
Use good eye contact.
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Before
you realize it, this will become a habit. Your current physicality is merely a poor
habit. Form a new, positive habit of using confident body language.
5. Stretch yourself. Come up with a list
of activities that will stretch your confidence muscles.
It can be little tasks that you find slightly uncomfortable. As they become
more comfortable, you can concentrate on more difficult tasks.
· Suppose
you have a fear of approaching beautiful women. You could start out by going to
the mall and saying “Hello!” to 25 beautiful women that pass by. The next day,
you could ask 25 beautiful women for directions. The following day you can
compliment 25 beautiful women, and so on.
Building
self-confidence requires action. Take some time each day to work on your
self-confidence. There are few things that will have a greater positive
impact on your life than increasing the level of confidence you have in
yourself.
Create
an action plan and stick to it. Self-confidence can be very easy to build if
you make the effort. A little work can result in huge rewards.
